sometimes, there is no perfectly logical explanation (ple), no excuses at all.
it was wonderful to sit in a training and have the trainer, a white man, say that institutional racism is the primary factor in the disparately high numbers of children of color in the foster system. i was astonished. it was refreshing to hear such honesty. he didn't want to beat around the bush or have us believe that there was some other "logical" explanation. when we play off stereotypes, believe that a person's worth is less than another because of their race, and act according to our belief in that person's lower worth, then we have racism on individual level. when our beliefs shape our systems--schools, policies, laws, social services, then that initial active use of racial stereotypes is institutional racism.
i think he is right. institutionalized racism has engrained in us that when children of color are in the foster system that somehow that is acceptable. or more acceptable than white children. how does this belief continue so rapidly for so long? the thought that some children deserve to be in the foster system (while others do not deserve to) is the ple that must stop.
i wish there were more moments like today's training.
kudos to you, trainer. thank you for keeping it real.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
blame
can blame be a form of a perfectly logical explanation?
socially, we, this current generation of which i am a part, have been brought up to put ourselves first. to believe we are special, unique, and different from other people. that we should stand out and be rewarded for merely being ourselves. for meeting expectations. with exterior messages that affirm all of this--including school curricula and this new social norm of giving certificates/medals/memorabilia to everyone despite one's abilities or talents, we believe and expect to be treated as the special people we are.
i hear a lot --a precise number is completely beyond me-- of people within my generation who put blame onto the outer world about what they (we) are and are not able to do. for instance, "i didn't pass the test because the professor isn't a good teacher." or, a blame that centers on the greatness of oneself--"i didn't learn anything new because i already knew everything that was being taught." i find myself lost in these statements. i don't know what to say or how to have conversations. i am astounded that people, college students specifically, actually believe these things. also, i am astounded that these explanations have been considered acceptable.
i do wonder though...when this blame is present is it a ple? or is placing blame on people/sources other than our selves an expectation of this (my) generation? is it an outcome of the environment and culture in which we have been brought up? funny, the last two questions sound like blame! i do, however, mean it in all seriousness. in my mind, externalizing blame is the most primary ple because it can be seen as perfectly logical that something/someone outside of myself is responsible for what happens to me. meaning, my life is not my life. what happens to me is not of my own making or contributions. then, i think about a contrasting perspective--blaming the victim for their being a victim, and for the crime for which they are a victim. this is where some of my struggle comes with the use of blame and ples.
the concept of generational cultural norms and expectations is another situation in which i struggle to decipher concepts of blame and providing (perfectly logical) explanations for injustice. is using blame as a strategy just a tool in our tool belts? yep. sad, but most likely true. there are many outside sources to blame too. we, each and every one of us is important, which means that attention should be paid to us. individual attention should be paid to us, and when it's not, that simply indicates an error in the system. a system in which we are not responsible.
in california proposition 8 passed, which gave voters the right to block gay marriages from being recognized in the state. what i hear from people (specifically in my generation) who voted no is blame of communities who did not turn out to vote. blame for the advertising tactics of the voting yes camp. no critical dialogue about their own in/action around educating and promoting the no on prop 8 vote. no responsibility for not working hard enough. just a "it's not my fault" response and attitude.
what i saw was not very much work at all. there seemed to me to be gaps between what people said they stood for, the actions they took, and the outcome altogether. there was another gap still--between all of those things and the responsibility for the injustice. is blame here deserved, or is it just being used as a shield to block our sense of self-importance and self-esteem?
what do other, older, generations expect from us? how can we have responses that connect outside of our own experiences when we don't know how to do that and when it's never been a cultural value/ideal? my initial question remains...can blame be yet another ple, or in the case of generations, does its use have a deeper (or just plain different) root?
socially, we, this current generation of which i am a part, have been brought up to put ourselves first. to believe we are special, unique, and different from other people. that we should stand out and be rewarded for merely being ourselves. for meeting expectations. with exterior messages that affirm all of this--including school curricula and this new social norm of giving certificates/medals/memorabilia to everyone despite one's abilities or talents, we believe and expect to be treated as the special people we are.
i hear a lot --a precise number is completely beyond me-- of people within my generation who put blame onto the outer world about what they (we) are and are not able to do. for instance, "i didn't pass the test because the professor isn't a good teacher." or, a blame that centers on the greatness of oneself--"i didn't learn anything new because i already knew everything that was being taught." i find myself lost in these statements. i don't know what to say or how to have conversations. i am astounded that people, college students specifically, actually believe these things. also, i am astounded that these explanations have been considered acceptable.
i do wonder though...when this blame is present is it a ple? or is placing blame on people/sources other than our selves an expectation of this (my) generation? is it an outcome of the environment and culture in which we have been brought up? funny, the last two questions sound like blame! i do, however, mean it in all seriousness. in my mind, externalizing blame is the most primary ple because it can be seen as perfectly logical that something/someone outside of myself is responsible for what happens to me. meaning, my life is not my life. what happens to me is not of my own making or contributions. then, i think about a contrasting perspective--blaming the victim for their being a victim, and for the crime for which they are a victim. this is where some of my struggle comes with the use of blame and ples.
the concept of generational cultural norms and expectations is another situation in which i struggle to decipher concepts of blame and providing (perfectly logical) explanations for injustice. is using blame as a strategy just a tool in our tool belts? yep. sad, but most likely true. there are many outside sources to blame too. we, each and every one of us is important, which means that attention should be paid to us. individual attention should be paid to us, and when it's not, that simply indicates an error in the system. a system in which we are not responsible.
in california proposition 8 passed, which gave voters the right to block gay marriages from being recognized in the state. what i hear from people (specifically in my generation) who voted no is blame of communities who did not turn out to vote. blame for the advertising tactics of the voting yes camp. no critical dialogue about their own in/action around educating and promoting the no on prop 8 vote. no responsibility for not working hard enough. just a "it's not my fault" response and attitude.
what i saw was not very much work at all. there seemed to me to be gaps between what people said they stood for, the actions they took, and the outcome altogether. there was another gap still--between all of those things and the responsibility for the injustice. is blame here deserved, or is it just being used as a shield to block our sense of self-importance and self-esteem?
what do other, older, generations expect from us? how can we have responses that connect outside of our own experiences when we don't know how to do that and when it's never been a cultural value/ideal? my initial question remains...can blame be yet another ple, or in the case of generations, does its use have a deeper (or just plain different) root?
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
judgement and action
forgive me for judging...
i am starting to think that a ple for people whose awareness about social justice issues is high centers around action. or lack of action to be precise. for a socially-aware person, the perfectly logical explanation for inaction is the simple fact that they are aware. somehow having heightened awareness and knowledge of information about the world is enough.
if ignorance is not an excuse, then when you do know (when awareness/knowledge is present), inaction is not an excuse either.
try telling a police officer after being pulled over: "i didn't know that was a law." that is not a valid excuse for breaking the law. furthermore, when you do know the law and are pulled over for breaking it, whose responsibility is that?
knowledge alone does not solve problems. in the case of being pulled over, knowledge that the law exists does not mean you follow the law. with social justice, knowing the "laws," or statistics, experiences, cycles of oppression does not mean that you are affecting social justice change.
yesterday i had started this same blog but it came out much more angry than now. and, in a very me fashion, riddled with pointed questions that i would never actually ask someone. just think and occasionally write.
i do think, however, it is important to share a little of where i was at yesterday when i sat down to type my thoughts...
please practice what you preach.
help me understand the gaping hole between what you say and what you do.
why is it that you say you understand about sweatshops, but make no effort to not buy their clothes? what is the knowledge worth then? show me. show the clothing manufacturers. show the workers behind the clothes. show your values. show how knowledge affects your choices. make new choices.
you want to know what you can do?!? use your knowledge! think critically AND act critically. have your actions connect directly to your thoughts. my gosh. is it really that difficult to figure out what to do?
help me understand how you can expect respect, but have no idea how to demonstrate it? how can you expect something you don't really understand yourself? the congruence of expectation and demonstration should be apparent. i can show you respect when you can also show it.
how can you say you want an advanced version of a training when you can't say one thing you gained from it in the first place? i have to say, as a trainer, this is frustrating. what it sounds like you are saying was those few hours you and i both spent were pointless. what value was your time if you did not gain something? then, you have the gall to request a more advanced training on the same topic? why would i waste my time on developing, planning, and implementing it when there is a possibility you will disregard it as well?
don't tell me something is broken when you have the knowledge and tools to fix it. freaking fix it yourself, then tell me you fixed it.
i am starting to think that a ple for people whose awareness about social justice issues is high centers around action. or lack of action to be precise. for a socially-aware person, the perfectly logical explanation for inaction is the simple fact that they are aware. somehow having heightened awareness and knowledge of information about the world is enough.
if ignorance is not an excuse, then when you do know (when awareness/knowledge is present), inaction is not an excuse either.
try telling a police officer after being pulled over: "i didn't know that was a law." that is not a valid excuse for breaking the law. furthermore, when you do know the law and are pulled over for breaking it, whose responsibility is that?
knowledge alone does not solve problems. in the case of being pulled over, knowledge that the law exists does not mean you follow the law. with social justice, knowing the "laws," or statistics, experiences, cycles of oppression does not mean that you are affecting social justice change.
yesterday i had started this same blog but it came out much more angry than now. and, in a very me fashion, riddled with pointed questions that i would never actually ask someone. just think and occasionally write.
i do think, however, it is important to share a little of where i was at yesterday when i sat down to type my thoughts...
please practice what you preach.
help me understand the gaping hole between what you say and what you do.
why is it that you say you understand about sweatshops, but make no effort to not buy their clothes? what is the knowledge worth then? show me. show the clothing manufacturers. show the workers behind the clothes. show your values. show how knowledge affects your choices. make new choices.
you want to know what you can do?!? use your knowledge! think critically AND act critically. have your actions connect directly to your thoughts. my gosh. is it really that difficult to figure out what to do?
help me understand how you can expect respect, but have no idea how to demonstrate it? how can you expect something you don't really understand yourself? the congruence of expectation and demonstration should be apparent. i can show you respect when you can also show it.
how can you say you want an advanced version of a training when you can't say one thing you gained from it in the first place? i have to say, as a trainer, this is frustrating. what it sounds like you are saying was those few hours you and i both spent were pointless. what value was your time if you did not gain something? then, you have the gall to request a more advanced training on the same topic? why would i waste my time on developing, planning, and implementing it when there is a possibility you will disregard it as well?
don't tell me something is broken when you have the knowledge and tools to fix it. freaking fix it yourself, then tell me you fixed it.
Monday, March 9, 2009
tolerance
tolerance is not the same as acceptance. acceptance of a person inclusive of their identity takes an act of intent, of will, of understanding. tolerance means a person is someone to put up with.
like a rude customer, for instance. i could tolerate a rude customer because perhaps they will only be there a short while, or i know we need their business. i tolerate the rude behavior they demonstrate, but i do not want more of it, i don't seek to have it, and i don't want it to be in my life--i could live without the rude behavior and the rude customer.
to accept a person means that i have put effort into them in some way. i can see that we are intertwined. my life is affected by that person and i am, in fact, the person i am because--in part, of them. i intentionally might seek this person out. seek out their opinion, their experience. their presence is valuable to my life. i accept who they are and what they believe because i can see that these aspects of them make life richer, deeper, and more full.
acceptance does not have parameters. there are not borders and restrictions to acceptance. there is no asterisk. no fine print. acceptance just is. tolerance just is, except...
like a rude customer, for instance. i could tolerate a rude customer because perhaps they will only be there a short while, or i know we need their business. i tolerate the rude behavior they demonstrate, but i do not want more of it, i don't seek to have it, and i don't want it to be in my life--i could live without the rude behavior and the rude customer.
to accept a person means that i have put effort into them in some way. i can see that we are intertwined. my life is affected by that person and i am, in fact, the person i am because--in part, of them. i intentionally might seek this person out. seek out their opinion, their experience. their presence is valuable to my life. i accept who they are and what they believe because i can see that these aspects of them make life richer, deeper, and more full.
acceptance does not have parameters. there are not borders and restrictions to acceptance. there is no asterisk. no fine print. acceptance just is. tolerance just is, except...
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